John A. DeStefani

August 26, 1938 ~ November 4, 2022 (age 84) 84 Years Old


John A. DeStefani peacefully passed away on November 4th, 2022 from Alzheimers. John was born August 26th, 1938 in Manhattan, New York. John spent his early years thoroughly enjoying New York making sure that he greeted everyone that he knew, and especially those he didn’t. He mastered the art of creating lifelong friendships with so many, especially with his buddies Artie and Vasco. As a young man, John enlisted in the Army Reserves, where he really found his only culinary speciality of cooking no less than 40 eggs at a time, and boiling potatoes. After his service, John went onto college to study chemistry, and took a position within Shamrock Chemical Corporation. As a result, John utilized his love for talking to people, while taking opportunities to travel, and finding his fondness for the theater.

Chicago, bound to expand his career goals, John quickly fell in love with the town of Buffalo Grove when he moved into The Crossings, his place of residence for over 30 years. John never missed the opportunity to keep all of his connections back home with weekly conversations with his late sister Anita, and his surviving cousins, Linette and Linda, and any of his other friends located all over the world. With John’s gift of gab, he developed a strong BG community for himself, finding more lifelong friends in Allen, Chris, and Bob, leading into weekly dinners and holidays with his friends, taking daily walks by himself or with a buddy around the neighborhood, stopping to talk to anybody that would listen, and teasing the neighborhood kids. This community was John’s family. And to them, John became affectionately known as “Walking John”.

By chance, “Walking John” took a neighbor for a date to the play “Aspects of Love”, and at the young age of 57, he married his one and only love, Donna. John and Donna have been married for 28 memorable years. They shared years of traveling, exploring the world, enjoying food, and as many theater performances as they could. John became a bonus-father to Donna’s children and enjoyed watching them grow. This fiercely independent man of one, left this earth with four step-children, Paul Evans, Aimee Waddell, Katie Stewart, and Tiffany Rudolph-Pearce. But, his real joy came from watching his eight grandchildren enter his life. Preston and Olivia Evans, Duncan and Connor Waddell, Hollis and Oliver Stewart, Madelyn and Collin Peters, were the ultimate gift for John.  

John lived everyday unconditionally loving, honoring, embarrassing, and laughing with everyone around him. He is already greatly missed. John, Spider, Papa, JD, Patapan..all our love on your greatest adventure.

Service will be held at Messinger Mortuary, Pinnacle Peak Location, on Saturday, November 12th, 2022 at 10 a.m.

8555 E. Pinnacle Peak Road Scottsdale, AZ 85255


Funeral Service
November 12, 2022

10:00 AM
Messinger Pinnacle Peak Mortuary
8555 E Pinnacle Peak Mortuary
Scottsdale, AZ 85255


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